Have you noticed that in general communication is one of the reasons why certain relationships fail or grow? It is easy for many to express their joys, hopes, and dreams but is so much harder when it comes to discussing conflict. I have personally had the hardest time in discussing my feelings. If someone has hurt me my tendency is to keep to myself. Sometimes its easier to take some time and really reflect on why you are hurt. It’s best to discuss matters when you are calm rather than upset and speaking out of hurt or anger.

Like all matters of the heart I have come a long way in confronting situations. It has made some of my closest relationships stronger for it. I used to fear talking things out because I held onto unhealthy friendships and relationships. Speaking from personal experience, it is natural to want to hold onto friendships even if they are toxic. Who really wants to lose a friend?

When I used to confront a situation with a friend the tendency turned into the blame being put onto me or even to the extent of not understanding where I was coming from. It takes time and patience, but I learned that some people will not understand where you are coming from. Some of my good friends that I cherish have had our share of quibbles. But talking them out at the right time is what I believe makes a relationship stronger. I appreciate that my friends respect that I need time and plenty of privacy. After all, shouldn’t a matter be hashed out between two people in privacy? ☺

So take my advice it is okay to really do a bit of soul-searching but when you are ready you can ‘talk it out’ too. I have learned that some of the biggest discussions have made my friendships and relationships stronger. The little things you just realize are not worth bickering over.