How do you really let go? I find that it is always easier to guide others and much more difficult to take your own advice. It is a general assumption more than anything. Whether I am right or not is not the question, but how do we really deal with grief? We live in a society that seeks therapy, medications, support groups, and that is successful for the most part. But how many of us have the knowledge and strength to really reach out for this type of support?

I noticed that prior generations were used to brushing their grievances underneath the rug, and accepting that this is just a part of life. Things change as we evolved as a society. We began to question and seek out answers. This is when change began.

When I was faced in a similar situation a good friend of mine suggested that I write out what I was feeling. It did not matter whether it was written properly, but all the grief and torment that I was facing needed to be placed onto a plain document. It did not matter if I typed it or of I decided to use a pen and paper. I went through a traumatic time in my life too, and it helps. I would write out all that I was feeling then shred the document. I did not need to go back to read it either. Surprisingly, this is the one advice that I give to anyone that is going through a very difficult time.

If you are one to note your progress then I suggest that you make a journal to track your progress. You would be surprised how much writing can heal you. It may also lead you to discover new things about yourself. Sometimes we do not give ourselves enough credit – we are a lot more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.