Who say’s that it is easy to just move on? No one. At least, that is what I believe. I have been in the position where I have had to let go of certain relationships, due to factors that were hindering my growth as a individual. Looking back, I can say that it is the best decision that I made in my life. They say that you should really be open to meeting people and allowing them into your life. I am all for making new friends and acquaintances — but I am just a bit more careful with who I let into my inner circle.

I learned after many bumps in the road and of course, the many hard lessons in life. It is a lesson that taught me to prioritize my life so that I place myself first. This happened over time as a result of self-realization and some tough love.

It is easier to be there for others at times and deflect so that you don’t place focus on yourself. I would not be surprised if you felt as though your life was revolving in a cycle, awaiting change. Why do we wait to help ourselves when it is so that much easier to help others? It is not wrong to help others, but you don’t want to be known as the push-over type either. Trust me – I have been there and done that.

As much as I would love to go into more detail – that will come later. As all good things, they are worth the wait. My story is always evolving and I learn so much more about myself on a daily basis. But in the meantime – here are my tips to help you take that ‘leap forward’:

Make a Life List
What I mean by a ‘life list’ is the 100 things that you want to accomplish in a lifetime. It can be something very basic as reading War & Peace to learning a foreign language. Don’t over think it just write or type what comes to mind. Post it up on your wall or inside your cabinet where you can see it everyday. I started this a while back myself, and I add to it as I accomplish a few of my ‘life list’ goals. My inspiration came from an aspring and talented woman who lost her life to the 9/11 tragedy. Her parents found her list and have since then inspired others to do the same. She is an example of someone we can all learn from – cherish your life and all that you can do in this lifetime.

Seek Out Help
We are all guilty of this – you know not asking for help even though we need it. Ok, well maybe not all of us. I am that person in the room who just did ever work up the nerve to ask for help. I know it is such a simple concept. Of course, by learning the hard way I slowly learned to seek out help from those that I trust and that will guide me when I seek their advice.

Put Me First
As strange as it may sound have you ever really put yourself first? At one point or another you have put everyone else before yourself. So that means if your friends are in need you will take on their woes as well. It is not bad to be there for everyone – it’s a great quality to have as an individual. I love being there for my family and close friends – but I also learned that I too needed to make time for myself. Find activities or a hobby that you enjoy and build your life so that you find balance. It takes time of course.

I hope that you find these methods simple and worth your time. I cannot complain because it has really helped me in more ways than I could have ever imagined.